Divorce Coaching

If you’re facing the possibility of divorce—or already in the early stages of separation—you may be carrying more than you can manage: legal concerns, emotional overwhelm, financial uncertainty, and deep fear about what comes next. That’s where divorce coaching comes in.

How I Work

Most of my clients are in the early stages of divorce: considering separation, initiating the legal process, or responding to a spouse who already has. They’re often overwhelmed, unsure what to do first, and afraid of making a mistake that could cost them emotionally, financially, or legally.

My approach is grounded in what I call the Stress-Less Divorce framework. The goal? A less stressful, less costly divorce with better outcomes. We focus on resolving three key obstacles that tend to derail the process:

1. Confused, Reactive, and Disoriented

When you’re flooded with fear and uncertainty, it’s hard to think straight. You may feel manipulated, frozen, or reactive. My Process & Proceed method helps you:

  • Translate emotional chaos into clear, answerable questions

  • Understand where you are in the process (and what comes next)

  • Get connected to the right professionals for reliable answers

2. Always Bracing for Impact

If you’re in constant conflict with your spouse, every text, email, or exchange can feel like a trigger. This drives up tension and makes good communication nearly impossible. My Conflict Buffer approach helps you:

  • Identify what’s triggering you and why

  • Build calmer, more effective ways to respond

  • Use leverage and boundaries to reduce emotional wear and tear

3. Feeling Like a Passenger

Many clients feel like the divorce is happening to them—run by their attorney, their spouse, or the courts. This is disempowering and expensive. With my Lead the Split method, we:

  • Clarify your goals and long-term vision

  • Build the right team of professionals around you

  • Help you work with that team effectively, without losing control or overspending

We may not follow these steps in order, but we draw on all of them as needed to reduce stress, increase clarity, and keep you in the driver’s seat.

Focus Areas:

  • Early-stage decision-making (stay, go, or create change)

  • Navigating high-conflict relationships or manipulative dynamics

  • Communicating effectively with attorneys, mediators, or your spouse

  • Preparing for separation or responding to legal action

  • Co-parenting concerns and emotional impact on children

  • Reducing unnecessary legal costs and emotional fallout

  • Rebuilding confidence, calm, and clarity in the middle of it all

Divorce coaching is here to help you think more clearly, respond more powerfully, and move through this process with more intention and less regret.

You're not just getting through it. You're leading it.

What If I’m Not Ready for Divorce?

Not everyone who seeks divorce coaching is certain they want a divorce. Many of my clients come to me in a state of crisis or confusion—knowing they can’t keep going the way things are, but not yet ready to end the relationship.

If you're feeling stuck between staying and leaving, overwhelmed by what either path might mean, or unsure how to even begin sorting through the emotions, you're in the right place. This is where divorce coaching can be especially powerful. I provide a structured, nonjudgmental space to slow down, reflect, and get clear on what you truly want and need.

Whether you ultimately decide to pursue separation, repair the relationship, or simply create healthier boundaries, our work together is about helping you find clarity in the chaos—so you're not making life-altering decisions from a place of panic or pressure. You don’t have to figure it all out alone, and you don’t have to be “sure” to start.